Notes To The Family FishFam

A Big Push for Christian Schools


The Washington Post, April 27, 2018, headline: Battle over transgender student rights moves to high school locker rooms. The article was light with little real information, only that a transgender student is at odds with a Maryland Eastern Shore High School.  Really, for the information provided, it is not worth the reading. But this transgender thing is not going away. So lets address it:


The Christian community is at a serious disadvantage regarding transgender persons and the mood of the country as represented by the  media.  With no premarital sex, including no sexual petting, we have no way of knowing.  We naturally assume that girls are girls, and boys are boys. If they have always presented themselves as girls or boys, we are accepting. So when are we to be informed?  While dating? How is the subject broached? " . . . I know you want children eventually, and so do I but . . . "  Too much will have been invested by the time one is brought home and introduced. Yet, before that time, those closeted may not want to divulge their privately held secret.

Considering the heightened sexual interest of healthy adolescents it would seem that high schools would have some responsibility to divulge what they know. High Schools would surely want to avoid potentially violent reactions to a prom night surprise.  

Does safety trump privacy? Or is this secrecy? What is the difference?1

How can we make all among us see that this secrecy is counter productive to society? Our very future may be at stake. This is not like being gay, lesbian or bisexual . . . such persons do not hide what they are, they want us to know that they are here among us and they demand acceptance. The transgender want to be accepted and known as a group, yet many want to remain individually unidentified. They’re here, but we can’t see them. We don’t know who they are unless they tell us. Stealth is their method of operation – we know only at their convenience. 

Adolescence is a time for getting to know each other. We get to know them by what we know about them. Knowledge of a transgendered identity is a major part of the knowing process. And the later this information is introduced into any relationship, the less impact it has on our actions.  And the knowledge of transgender status  should have impact on dating! 

By the time the Christian seriously approaches marriage and is ready for sex, love has occurred and an unbreakable bond has been developed. This is the preferred progression of Christian dating and matrimony. And we have no reason to intervene earlier to confirm that all is as it appears before deeper emotional attachments are established.  We must intervene earlier to  correct what we see as unacceptable.  

With transsexual privacy rights being placed above the rights of the rest of us, total separation from the public school is the only proactive course of action for the Christian. Our children must attend Christian schools!  And the expense? We must petition the government for a tax deduction approaching the amount paid for private Christian education.

The transgender issue goes far beyond privacy. It has set itself before the Christian community requiring a sacrifice of our children. 

The June 3, 2016 article in the Washington Post by Ron Ford Jr. and Vanessa Ford unintentionally tells us why this is such an important issue. Attempting to explain why the transgender issue was more about discrimination than about bathroom use, the Fords pointed out how supportive their school had been becoming a model of inclusiveness; When we first met with teachers and staff to discuss Ellie leaving as a boy and returning as a girl, we expected to have a fight about bathrooms, dress codes, names on attendance sheets. Instead, we were met with a warm welcome, clarity that "of course she can use the girls’ bathroom … she’s a girl!" and a letter to parents — signed by the administration –- explaining Ellie’s transition from boy to girl and expressing the school’s support. Her classroom teacher stocked the bookshelves with books that affirmed Ellie’s identity, and the teacher made a point to read those books during class in the first few weeks of school. Ellie’s fellow students, taking the clear cue from teachers and staff, treated Ellie like the girl she is and have embraced her as a member of the school community. Ellie has blossomed in her school. She feels safe, loved, empowered and, most importantly, just like every other kid there.

And that’s the model used to indoctrinate children to just about any belief or lifestyle one can imagine: introduction and reinforcement by respected authority figures. Middle school educators and below are given a blank slate and told to write.  And the respected authority figures begin to write as they will, regardless of the parents beliefs.

Sometimes the writing may benefit society as children learn to walk on the left-hand side of the sidewalk so that others can pass, wait for the Walk light before crossing the street, raise their hand and wait their turn before speaking so that all may speak in turn and order may be maintained. But there are areas where schools should not be involved. Declaring that God has made a mistake is such an area.



What really happened in Ellie’s case is that against all genetic indicators a preschool boy declared himself a girl. And the parents and the school, agreed. Should God not have been given the greater deference? Did the parents at least examine daycare providers, school personnel and significant family friends and relatives to ensure that the gender confusion had not resulted from improper influence each would have had?

Who made the determination that we could solve the problem of gender confusion by creating an additional gender?

If the temperature is below 31 degrees and there is snow on the ground, an adult would overrule a five-year-olds determination to go outside wearing summer clothing.

It used to be that mothers stayed home with their children until they entered middle school. Children were protected from undo exposures up to and through their preteen years. After that, by their training and orientation at home, they had a sound grounding to cope with any distracting force, and the common sense to consult their parents on matters too confusing.

Many mothers now reenter the workforce when their children go from preschool to elementary school, some at preschool, some within weeks after birth. More and more responsibility and authority is handed over to our public friend who initially appears to ask so little of us. But the freedom to allow mothers to reenter the work force and contribute financially to the family comes with a cost: the cost of losing control of our children's training.

Proverbs 22:6 (KJV) Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
This parents’ responsibility is not met by merely enrolling a child in a Christian school.
Interaction with educators and close monitoring is always required. But Christian schools are a far better alternative than public school.

Christian schools allow parents to share child rearing responsibilities with educators who have similar belief systems. Mothers can return to the workforce and contribute to the family income without relinquishing their responsibility and authority to secular institutions and ideas.

The time to act is now!

Proverbs 3:5-6 (KJV)
5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.


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